Frequently Asked Questions About Validating And Fixing Teenage Depression

As a sheltered (read: homeschooled) kid most of my life, I did not deal with teenage drama at all. My best friend was my mother; my favorite thing to do as a teen was painting. Even in college, I preferred to take most of my classes online to finish everything earlier than the others and graduate quickly. Although I would have loved to spend all my life at home, I knew that I already “overstayed” at 21 years old, so I moved out and got a job in another city as a junior advertising executive.

A few months later, Mom called me, crying. I thought something terrible happened to them, but I eventually learned that she was shedding tears of joy.

“Honey, I’m pregnant. You’re about to have a baby sister,” she informed me.

I was so shocked that I could not speak immediately. Mom was already 42 years old. Sure, she was youthful-looking, but she was still too old to be expecting again. When I told her about what I thought, she laughed and told me it was a miracle. Despite my initial reaction, I was happy to know that they would have another person to look after.

Six months later, Camilla was born. She was the cutest baby I had ever seen. That’s saying something, considering I had always thought that I held that crown for a long time, but I willingly gave it up to my sister as soon as I saw her smile. I tried to go home as much as I could to help Mom out and watch Camilla grow up.

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Different Kid, Different Education System

Since Camilla was technically a miracle baby, my parents were overly protective of her. They planned to set up a playground in the backyard so that Camilla would not think of asking to go to the park and play with the other kids. They also wanted to homeschool her, considering I turned out to be a decent adult despite my lack of social exposure.

The unforeseen flaw in my parents’ plan was that they allowed Camilla to watch nursery rhymes with real kids playing or singing in parks or nursery schools in the background. As soon as Camilla could talk, therefore, she said, “I want to go to school like them.”

Did my parents listen to her? Not immediately, no. They thought it was a phase and moved on with the homeschooling idea. They also deleted all those clips and replaced them with animated ones for good measure. However, every year, Camilla would ask when she could go to school like other kids her age and draw pictures depicting that.

My sister’s desire to go to a regular school became more persistent when she finished middle school. She argued, “I am almost 18 years old. I want to experience a normal life. I want to attend a prom, go to a football game, and have friends.” She would talk about it every day in the first couple of weeks of summer. The more my parents said no, the more her mood became dull, to the extent that she refused to leave her room. Worse, her drawings became darker and more vivid, and that scared my parents.

When Mom called to tell me what happened at home, she painted the picture as a rebellious phase. But I countered, “Is it possible that Camilla’s dealing with depression? After all, she’s been wanting to go to school for a while now, but you still haven’t allowed her to do that.”

“No, that can’t be true. Teenagers don’t get depressed – they only get rebellious.”

Uh-oh, I thought, Mom’s still not #woke. So, I talked to her extensively about validating – and hopefully fixing – teenage depression.

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What age group has the highest depression rate? 

Young adults (aged 18 and 25) have the highest depression rate.

How do I know if my teenager is mentally ill? 

You can tell that your teenager is mentally ill if:

  • They excessively worry about everything.
  • They refuse to socialize with anyone – even family members.
  • They get too sensitive and insecure whenever they hear constructive criticism.
  • They always feel sad and worthless.

Is it normal for teenagers to have mood swings? 

Yes, it is normal for teenagers to have mood swings, considering they are dealing with hormonal changes as their physical features develop.

What is the leading cause of depression among youths? 

Bullying is the primary cause of depression among youths, although it appears in various forms.

Does puberty make you feel depressed? 

Yes, puberty can make you feel depressed. The reason is that hormonal changes can intensify a person’s emotions, thus possibly turning sadness into depression.

What are the leading causes of teenage stress? 

  • Demanding academic schedule
  • Negative self-talk
  • Physical changes
  • Peer pressure
  • Family problems
  • Safety issues
  • Parental divorce
  • Chronic medical condition
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How does stress affect teenage life? 

Stress can make a teenager overeat to cope with their issues. Instead of resolving them, though, this habit may cause the development of diabetes, obesity, and other medical illnesses, which may stress them out further.

In other cases, stress is the primary trigger factor for a broad range of mental disorders. The more stressed a teenager feels the more severe the mental symptoms may become.

What percentage of high school students are stressed? 

Approximately 50% of high school students complain about stress.

What can trigger stress? 

  • Extreme social or peer pressure
  • Biological or physiological changes
  • Moving to a new place
  • Lack of control over some issues
  • Overwhelming responsibilities

What are the five emotional signs of stress? 

  • Poor decision-making abilities
  • Losing track of thoughts and activities
  • Feeling irritable all the time
  • Overeating
  • Experiencing apathy

How do I know if I am stressed? 

  • Small changes make you anxious.
  • You feel frustrated quickly.
  • It would help if you were in control is stronger than ever.
  • You cannot set aside your worries.
  • You always feel worthless or pitiful.

What are the three causes of stress? 

  • Chronic diseases
  • Traumatic incidents
  • Relationship issues
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What are the four signs of stress? 

  • Feeling out of sorts
  • Unexplainable physical pains
  • Changing appetite
  • Sleep issues

How can I avoid stress in my life? 

  • Watch what you eat.
  • Stop abusing substances.
  • Decide on a workout program.
  • Take a break whenever you need it.
  • Practice mindfulness.
  • Sleep as much as possible.
  • Avoid taking failures too seriously.

How do I relieve stress and anxiety?

  • Learn breathing techniques.
  • Change your lifestyle.
  • Seek fun activities.
  • Downplay awful situations.

Final Thoughts

That conversation I initiated with Mom pushed her to have a heart-to-heart talk with Camilla. The first thing they did was go to a psychologist’s office to see if she really had depression and what they could do to treat it. I turned out to be spot-on, and my sister proceeded with therapy for the rest of the summer. Then, when the psychologist recommended a change of scenery for Camilla, my parents finally agreed to let her go to the local junior high, as long as they would drive her to and from school instead of taking the bus. It was not 100% freedom, but my sister took it as a win, and her mood continued to improve after that.

Solar Home Is A Better Home (Excellent Mental Health State)

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It has been over 50 years since we first landed on the moon, and since the human race has more than doubled its population. From here, the world we live in is rapidly dying from pollution, over-harvesting, mining, climate change, carbon emission, and more. We are at a point where we are “borrowing” natural resources from the budget made for next year. At the rate we are going with how we use our natural resources, our planet may run out sooner than we think.

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Beautiful Home, Beautiful Family

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The home is where we first learn about life; it is where we get exposed to a lot of our firsts as kids. Our first words, first steps, first tooth, first social interaction, we experience all of that at home with our families. It is such a fantastic feeling for parents to see their baby come home finally. This is also a lot of firsts for parents, which is all just an amazing memory when the day comes.

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Budget-Friendly Decorating Tips For Home Quarantine Renovation

Perhaps you already tried a lot of things to entertain yourself while on lockdown. Of course, you would want to avoid getting stressed and all that. So if you are fed up with the same old routines over and over again, I might have something special for you. If you like to spend your time cleaning and organizing your home, I have some budget-friendly decorating tips that will keep you busy during the home quarantine.

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Keep It Simple And Clean

No matter how much money you spent on decorating and upgrading your home if there’s clutter, it will not make any difference from living in an uncomfortable place. If you can commit to picking small things on the floor, making up your bed, arranging your items neatly, you will start to feel better about your space. You will realize that you don’t need to put too much stuff in every corner of your house because keeping it clean absolutely takes the area to an inspiring level.

Hang Some Curtains

Curtains in your home are among the oldest yet most useful tricks out there that promise to bring out a pleasant and cozy place. It makes the space bigger and homier. Curtains increase the house’s substantial look effortlessly. It works every time, especially when trying to drip some luxury in a room without spending too much. It is as if turning a box into something beautiful and enticing to look at. Just remember to buy those curtains that compliment your wall if you are not planning on changing your wall paint.

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Hang Your TV

Yes, hanging your TV is another decorating tip that even the most famous interior designers would recommend. That is because it has a lot of benefits. When you hang your TV on the wall, you will get an extra space that you won’t have to use to set up a stand. Thus, it saves you from buying an excess item in your house. Aside from that, it lessens the risk of accidents such as dropping the TV onto the floor and breaking the screen. Hanging it can also keep it away from children’s reach, as well as your pets.

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Add Some Plants And Flowers

Flowers and plants do not give your home a lovely ambiance and splash of color, but it also allows your home to feel fresh and inviting. There is something about plants and flowers that make your home comfortable. Aside from that, since it represents nature, plants and flowers can potentially reduce your stress and anxiety levels, which is excellent, especially during this pandemic time. And the best part is you don’t have to spend too much money on getting a few.

Light It Out

One thing you need to remember when decorating your home is the significance of lighting. It is important to keep your place well-lit because it adds a fantastic feeling of satisfaction. Light gives a sense of clarity and somehow binds all the things inside the house into a particular purpose of relieving your stress and anxiety. But of course, always choose LED. Not only is it energy efficient, but it is also safe and reliable.

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Do-It-Yourself

You can do a lot of things to add comfort and beauty to your home without spending too much. You can paint your wall, rearrange the figurines, and replace photo frames, add shelves, change seat covers, use wall stickers, and many more. Honestly, there are a lot of things you can do to give your home its best look. You just have to use your creativity, and everything will fall under your hands.

Rearranging Your Small Home During The Lockdown

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In highly urbanized cities like New York, London, HongKong and Tokyo, people are living in a small apartment or in condo units, which used to be a sanctuary. Right now, because of this lockdown, it is a challenge to stay indoors and work from home. Being isolated in a confined space, nonetheless, can make you go “crazy.” If only you were in the suburbs of the Philippines wherein you can bask in the sweetness of your space at home… At this time, you are left to suck it up.

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Benefits Of Using Interior Design Apps

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Going to the 2019 Interior Design Expo is one of the best decisions that I have had so far. As someone who loves designing spaces, big or small, I always want to attend events where I can see innovations in my field. Think of it as our version of a Science Fair—booths spread out in the hall, filled with curious guests.

Among the things I have seen in the said expo, I cannot forget the interior design apps. There are far too many of them at this point; some are free while others ask for an annual price. I never got to use one until that point, though, but I saw their appeal at once.

Here are the benefits of using interior design apps.

Clients Can Envision What They Want
The primary perk of downloading such applications is that they come with features found in a real house. You also get a variety of each furniture, which boosts your imagination. Some apps even offer a three-dimensional view of the room so that you can envision it well.

Designers Can Narrow Down Clients’ Choices
A lot of interior designers tend to use apps like Houzz during the initial talks with a client. The reason is that they have realistic items that you can move around a specific room. This way, there is no need for both to go out and look for furniture or design inspirations.

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Clients May Be Able To DIY It
You can get apps that will allow you to become an impromptu interior designer. They cost a little more than average because of the coolness of its features. However, you can unlock design tools that can make your home appear as if a professional has done it.

Final Thoughts
What I love most about this field is the sense of fluidity that interior design offers. Every person has a unique taste when it comes to living spaces, so there is always room for creativity. With such technological innovations, it gives more people a chance to tap into their creative sides and design their dream homes.
Feel free to try interior design apps today!

How To Make Your House Guest-Ready

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Are you aware that there are two kinds of homeowners? The first one enjoys hosting guests, which is why she loves it when a friend or a colleague comes over. On the other hand, the second one is the type of person who hates taking in visitors over the weekends. If you belong to the first category, then be sure to read this article from start to finish.

 

Keep in mind that today’s post is focused on the top ways that every homeowner like you can do to see to it that your house is guest-ready. Take note that just because you want people to visit you does not mean that you can chill out and wait for them to come over. Always put in mind that you must exert some efforts to see to it that when they come to your place, they will love everything they can see or experience. Here are the things that you can do:

 

Use The Right Lights

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Are you aware that choosing the lights to install in the different areas of your house is an essential matter that you must prioritize? You cannot just randomly select a light bulb and color without taking into consideration some significant factors. An excellent interior designer would tell you that bright lights are ideal for living rooms, while dark lights are best for dining areas. When you choose the correct light, your guest will instantly be in a good mood once he enters the first door. The lighting can affect his mood.

 

Avoid Being A Showoff

 

What is your motivation for wanting people to visit your house? Do you enjoy their company, or is it your goal to show off your stuff? Take note that no one likes to be around someone who is too boastful. As such, you need to see to it that you will present your house to others in such a great way that you will not appear as a showoff individual. Avoid trying too hard to give your guests the perfect experience in your place because it can lead to severe problems or troubles. Instead, try to act natural when they are around. When it comes to choosing home decors, look for something simple yet elegant.

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Install Hidden Cameras

 

Whether you like it or not, the truth is that you may need to install some hidden cameras in your house if you intend to invite people all the time. Remember that your family’s safety must be your number one consideration. If tons of individuals will come and go to your house, then you are exposing your vulnerability to them. If you want to protect yourself and your family, place a hidden camera so that you have a recording for everything that takes place in your house. It will come in handy if something goes wrong or an unfortunate event happens.

 

Do not forget to be accommodating and friendly when it comes to entertaining all kinds of persons who will come to your place.

 

3 Ways To Improve Home Aesthetic

 

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Are you aware that the look and feel of your house has a big effect on the mental health of everyone living therein? According to a recent study in the field of psychology, people who live in a pleasant home with a happy family are more likely to feel better about their lives. They are the ones who are always inspired and motivated. On the other hand, the individuals who reside in a topsy-turvy or messy place have a high likelihood of acting indifferent towards the people surrounding them.

 

This information tells us one thing, and it is the fact that every homeowner like you must pay attention to improving your home’s aesthetic. As much as possible, focus on the various ways on how you can create a wonderful look for your house. Once you do, there is a great or high possibility that everyone in your family will become happier and can experience improved mood. Here are the essential things that you can do to improve the look or aesthetic of your house:

 

Change The Wall Paint

 

When was the last time you changed the color of your wall? Do you think it is time to introduce a significant improvement in your house? If yes, then changing the wall paint color is a great idea that you must do as soon as possible. You will be surprised at how everyone in your family is going to love the change in color. However, it is best to be careful when it comes to selecting the shade for your wall paint. Be sure that you go for something trendy and can have a soothing effect.

 

Throw Away Old Stuff

 

How many worthless items are in your house? Do you see yourself as a packrat where you keep everything even if it no longer has value? If you answered yes to these, then be sure to consider going through a general cleaning activity. All you must do is start throwing away old stuff. The first step is to think of at least twenty items that you haven’t used for the past year. Once you gather them all, try to check the purpose of each thing and determine if you still need them or not. If it is the latter, then the best choice is to give it away.

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Buy A New Furniture

 

Another grand gesture that you can do to improve the look of your place is to buy brand new furniture for the living room or the kitchen area. However, be sure that you have enough money before you invest in this matter. Take note that the furniture can be expensive. If you do not have the budget, do not worry because you can always go for DIY projects. Keep in mind that this great suggestion is only ideal if you have furniture that is at least five years old, and the weariness of the item is apparent already. Look for the best-selling and latest furniture available in the best home shops in your town or city.

 

Tips For Renovating Your House

If there is one thing that every homeowner needs to understand, it is the fact that renovating one’s property is inevitable. Keep in mind that if you want to maintain the cleanliness and greatness of your house, it is imperative on your part to introduce significant renovations when you have a budget. Remember that doing this thing can be expensive, which is why it must only enter your mind if you have extra cash to spare for the materials and the labor.

Before anything else, we want to emphasize that home renovation is an investment instead of an expense. When you renovate an area of your house or introduce a major improvement, you are also increasing the value of your property. At the same time, you are giving everyone in your family a chance to enjoy a brand new environment that can be good for their mental wellness. Below are the things to keep in mind for your home renovation:

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Look For An Architect

 

If the improvements that you are going to introduce to the property are major or substantial, be sure that you will hire an architect to create a plan for you. Keep in mind that you cannot do it on your own. Otherwise, there will be some structural problems in your renovation project. It may lead to higher costs and can pose a greater danger to everyone in your family. Be sure to work only with a licensed professional to ensure that you are in safe hands.

 

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Set Aside A Budget

 

As already mentioned above, renovating a house can be expensive on your part. As such, you must have the right amount of cash to pay for all the possible expenses. Set aside a budget for the project so that you will not end up borrowing from other people to pay for the fees of the renovation. As much as possible, be financially independent before you take on a major project. Otherwise, it may be the reason why you will be covered in debt.

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Ask For Opinion

 

You may become too excited when it comes to renovating your house. As a result, you may become indifferent to the opinions or suggestions of other people. It is a wrong approach because the right thing to do is to inquire for ideas from your family members. Let your husband or spouse know that you are interested to hear his suggestions on how to improve your house. Do not prevent him from speaking up just because he has different tastes and preferences from you. Keep in mind that you are not the only person who will occupy the said property.

 

Renovating a wonderful house is not an easy thing to do. Aside from the budget, you must also think of the execution of the plan that you have in mind. Nonetheless, it does not mean that you will just let the stress prevent you from enjoying the journey. As much as possible, enjoy the opportunity to improve your house.

 

 

What To Remember When Buying A Property

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There are tons of essential things that you must keep in mind when it comes to buying a property. Make sure that you will consider several things before you spend your cash for any real property investment. Keep in mind failure to think twice before taking action can lead to several mistakes and errors. Because of this, you must see to it that you will do whatever it takes to protect your investments. In today’s article, we are going to share the tips to keep in mind when you are buying a property for the first time.

 

Deal With A Legitimate Broker

 

Take note that it is imperative to look for the right licensed real estate broker who can facilitate the purchase that you want to make. As much as possible, look for a professional that you can trust. Remember that buying a property means taking out a big chunk of money from your savings. Unfortunately, if you deal with a wrong broker, there is a tendency that you will encounter issues or problems. Because of this, you have to find someone reliable.

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Double Check The Property

 

Another thing that you have to keep in mind is the reality that there are different kinds of homeowners. Some of these individuals are attentive to the look and security of their properties. On the other hand, there are also those who do not know how to take good care of their residence. Because of this, you must find a way to double-check the different areas of the house that you are going to buy. Make sure that you will inspect every room and corner to ensure that there are no significant issues with the property.

 

Think About Financing

 

Keep in mind that there are various options available on how you are going to settle the payment for your house. If you think that you have extra cash to spare for investments, then be sure to pay in cash. The best advantage of doing this is that you can save more on the costs of buying the property. Several homeowners sell their properties at low prices if they are paid in full. However, if you do not have the right amount of savings to pay for the full cost, do not worry. You can always try to avail of financing arrangements from several banks.

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Inquire About The Reason For Selling

 

You must also see to it that you know how to inquire about the real reason why the previous owners decided to sell their property to an interested buyer like you. Is there something wrong with the house? How long has it been since they lived in the said residence? Did something terrible happen that forced them to sell it? These are the questions that you must be able to ask your realtor. Keep in mind that being curious about these matters is important. Remember that investing in a property is not something that you can decide overnight. There are tons of factors that you must balance to ensure that you can make the right choice.